May 18 2014
When life changes are about to happen, we have a set of expectations. Of Preconceived notations of what is going to happen and how it is all going to play out.
Then life happens, and we realize it is nothing like we expected! And I am seeing that in alot of journals lately. Major life changes, be it surgery, empty nest, moving in with the Dom/Master/Mistress, even poly. I read and all the expectation is just amazing! What we imagine and what really happens are so far apart! its like Mars and Pluto!
Now when I moved in with Master, some of my expectations were exceeded! Mainly financial and career wise. He said I would never work outside the home, and honestly, I thought he was full of shit. I expected to work, we had two kids to support, and here it is 13 years later and I have never worked outside the home. Sex wise and BDSm wise, I had no expectations, not like alot of people do. Caged, beat regularly, daily, sucking cock, etc etc. I had NONE of that. I knew with kids, that, that would not happen that kids came first before Master, before sex, before BDSM ..and they did. So I think moving here, I had realistic, if somewhat low expectations...
And then the kids moved out!
After the shock of empty nest syndrome wore off, the expectations reared their head! Seriously, we expected MORE SEX, and MORE BDSM, and MORE Nudity, and more and more and more. And we got more for a week or two. And then life butted in. and we realized that we still had to work, that we still had to cook and clean and do laundry, that we still had to live and too boot we were TEN years older and aches and pains and illnesses were all also ten years older! Boy was it a let down!
Now don't get me wrong, things DID change, but the bdsm that we had grown to love and that we had built in the ten years of marriage, remained pretty much the same. We still fuck and suck and beat as much as what we did in the beginning, for we realized that it wasn't kids holding us back, we were happy and content, so why change something that is soo good. What did change was things like wearing cuffs more often, or me calling Him Master or Him calling me slut, cunt, girl..those words slip out so easily now that we find we have to be careful when vanilla people are here. And I do run around nude more then what I did before, altho not as much as Master would like! And we can play in the kitchen or living room or dining room..with no worries of kids coming home early!
So when I read or talk to people going thru major life changes and listen to them, It makes me smile, and think back to when we were going thru it and the expectations we had. Anyways enough rambling I have a rant to post next LOL
Have a great one!