Dec 4 2014
When Master was 8 maybe 9 years old, his mom and dad were called to the school and Master was suspended. Why? Because Master was caught drawing a picture of naked woman tied to a chair. This was back in 1970/71 or so and HIGHLY frowned upon. Me? Every single guy I ever dated was a "bad boy". The tough guy, protect the damsel in distress, take charge, be the boss. My mom and dad used to say it was a "phase" I was going thru, I would out grow it. I never did.
My point? Bdsm is who we are, it is NOT what we do. And the reason for this post is I am amazed at the number of people who just up and leave it. Two couples that we know, that live here in lakeland. That four years ago, it was their life. Jump in head first, let everyone know just what you are and what you do. Taste it all, do it all, go to all the events. Yell at the top of the mountains that you are involved in BDSM..and then suddenly..poof
It is like they are playing DnD and when they have conquered it all, when they have gotten bored of it, then they move on to the next venture. (In this case one couple have become christian freaks, ya really, and the other couple are involved intensely in something else) And I do not understand it. Mainly for they scream and yell and say we are Master and slave and then poof no more. How do you just shut it off? And I do not mean the BDSM part, sheesh if you think you are Master/slave because of what you do (beatings and blood ext) then you are sadly mistaken. Bdsm is what we do, not why we do it. We do it because it is WHO we are. I cannot turn my submission on and off and Master would never, could never, just turn off being dominant. It is who we are.
And it is not just these couples we know in real life, but there are a few couples online that are going thru this same phenomenon. Turn it off like a light switch. Gone. I can understand the BDSM part, really I can. Health gets in the way, or life, or kids but the submission part? The dominance? Just gone? Those rare occasions where the BDSM has been put on a back burner, the submitting is STILL there. I still do what I am told, what I have been trained to do. I still take care of HIM, serve his food, and do pedicures on his feet. The BDSM might be gone but the submission is THERE always.
So why is this annoying? These people are the squeaky wheel. They go to all the events, they go to all the munches, they do everything and they say this way, this way, this way is the right way. And now they have moved onto bigger, better and newer things. And yes it irritates me. They preach like they know it all, they get involved and try to teach others, or show others, when they really have no clue, when what they have, is not Master/slave its more a game, more top/bottom or kinky sex or whatever but it is NOT Master/slave.
BDSM is WHAT we do NOT why we do it. If your entire relationship is on WHAT you do then it is not Master/Slave.
Second Point - I was on fetlife and a girl posted "submitting is not who I am so I have to work at it." Again, I am not sure if I understand this. If submitting is NOT who you are then are you not setting yourself up for failure? Are you not like the people above? I honestly believe that if you are submissive, then you are submissive and nothing will change it. You can pretend to be dominant but that won't make you happy. You cannot change who you are. Some people have serious personalities and others joke about everything. Some are more loving, others more reserved. We would not try to change these traits, these characteristics, so why do we try to "Be submissive" or "be dominant" when we are not? There is NOTHING wrong with being a top, or bottom, or a bedroom submissive, or just enjoying plain old fashioned kinky sex. Just be true to yourself and those around you!
Lastly -- We once again had a small vacation!! We left Nov 8 and return Nov 16, We took a cruise to Puerto Rico, USVI, Grand Turk and Bahamas, we booked a suite this time!! It was so much fun and a much needed break! We have book a few things to do obviously from snorkeling to Discover Atlantis! And we did a helmet dive! I really need to get those photos uploaded to show off!!
And then we did another vacation the first week of december, just something small and intimate this time. But I loved it and on both vacations Master used me (of course) and its funny cause you are in this stage place and you have no idea how thick or thin the walls are and well are vanilla sex would make most people run screaming LOL. It was so fun!
So that is it for today, I have so much to say and never any time. But I am going to try harder. I gave up facebook, it depresses me, and I am rarely on fetlife, so I hope I have created some spare time to dedicate to my site.
PROMISES PROMISES lol Have a good day!
I love deeply