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Orgasm Control


Orgasm control, also known as "peaking", "surfing", and by other terms,[1] is a sexual technique involving either an active partner taking control over a passive partner's orgasm, or one person controlling their own orgasm in sexual intercourse or through masturbation. As it pertains to this page, the orgasm is controlled and held back for an extended period of time as near as possible to the orgasm itself, and then the person is finally allowed to experience the orgasm.

Called "slow masturbation" in Alex Comfort's The New Joy of Sex (1984)[2]and "extended massive orgasm" in Vera and Steve Bodansky's 2000 book of the same name, it is similar to the Venus Butterfly technique used in the volume The One Hour Orgasm (1999) by Leah and Bob Schwartz. However, any method of stimulation--manual, oral, intercourse, or with sex toys--can be used by either a single person or by one or more active partners to prolong the sexual experience leading up to orgasm.

In a two-person exchange, a partner will stimulate the receiver, gradually bringing them up to the point high in the plateau phase where an orgasm is actually building, and will then reduce the level of stimulation just below that needed to trigger the orgasm. By carefully varying the intensity and speed of stimulation, and by practicing with the same partner to learn their responses, a person is held in the highly-aroused state near orgasm. This process may be repeated as desired, but at some point repetition may cause the urge to orgasm to become overwhelming. When a partner eventually provides enough stimulation to achieve an orgasm, it may be stronger than usual due to the increased tension and arousal that builds up during the extended stimulation.

Since orgasm control prolongs the experience of powerful sexual sensations occurring during the final build-up to orgasm, the physical demands of being kept or keeping oneself in this highly-excited state for an extended time can induce a pleasurable, almost euphoric state, and at times creates changes within an individual's perceived consciousness.

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Additional Resources

BDSM - a New Dominant's Guide to Orgasm Control and Orgasm on Command

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