Aww love, what a grand thing. Makes your knees weak and your heart beat faster, I am learning to see my Master without distortion; to value Him as highly as I value myself; to give without expecting anything in return; to commit myself fully to His welfare. Only then can love move freely between us without apparent effort. It’s unconditional love between best friends, Master/slave, husband/wife.

When we are able to love in this selfless manner, we experience a release of energy. We cease to be consumed by the details of our relationship, or the need to operate within the artificial structure of exercises; we spontaneously treat each other with love and respect. Love becomes automatic. In order to experience the kind of relationship I want, I accept the fact that, in order to understand each other, my Master and I must have clearly developed channels of communication. I cultivate transparency of myself by being a master in the art of self-disclosure. I know that when the inclination to reveal myself to the one I love is blocked, I close myself to Him and experience emotional difficulties. I promised when He collared me to never hide behind a facade. I am forever practicing telling my Master exactly what pleases me, decreasing His reliance on mental telepathy. I express preferences instead of demands. I believe that I can never know myself except as an outcome of disclosing myself to Him. In ways I may not fully understand, self-disclosure helps me to see things, feel things, imagine things, hope for things that I could never have thought possible. The invitation to transparency, then, is really an invitation to authenticity. It is also an invitation to allow myself to be vulnerable. When I allow my Master to see me for who I really am right now, I am less afraid I will be rejected in the future. When my Master accepts and loves me unconditionally, I know I will never have to hide in the relationship in the future. To have inner peace it is necessary to consistently love in what I think, in what I say and in what I do. I think thoughts of love. I speak words of love. I demonstrate unconditional love for my Master in all that I do. Communication, open communication makes me vulnerable to my deepest feelings.  There is no intimacy without communication, and in order to do this Master and I must always be truthful, in all that we do and say.  This truthfulness creates a condition of unity, love and satisfaction.  The act of withholding the truth is potentially a lie.

 I have been told many times that it is impossible for us to be together all the time without suffocating each other (we work at home and are together 99% of the time) but we both believe that we are now one, that our love, our beliefs holds us together and neither of us quest for outside interference. Our love is stronger then ever before. We have learned to cherish both intimacy and solitude yet We never feel tied to each other.

 At the heart of love, there is a simple secret: the Master lets the beloved be free. I am free, I am free to be who I am, to be happy in my slavery to Him, My Master and I require different mixes of independence, dependence, control, submission and mutuality, and the mix is freely discussed and renegotiated from time to time when necessary.

 So you ask about love and submission and I surely cannot speak for everyone nor can I even imagine just an online relationship for that is something I consistently refused to get involved with.  But in my life, in my 24 hour a day seven day a week life, yes love is needed.  For the kind of submission for the level of submission, the level of trust, loyalty, devotion, respect, intimacy, communication, honesty, and freedom.  I am free. Unconditional love is a special, intense connection, and it is not an answer to all or even most individual problems. No one can make me happy but me and I am so very happy.