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So You Wanna Wear Heels?
In the past few weeks i've seen many different comments about people who would like to be better at wearing heels or people who say "I wish I could wear heels, but they just KILL my feet!". Well this is for you! i welcome comments, questions and i am also happy to be schooled as well! i am still growing in my abilities and in doing so i am constantly learning new techniques for comfort as well as making your shoes look and fit great. This post is for those just starting out. If you're just starting out and you've worn flats your entire life, your calf muscles and shins aren't going to be used to the strain that a high heel will put on your muscles. You'll also notice a bit of a pull on your arch. All this feels pretty good the first time you put on your first actual high heel. When i was really learning to walk in heels, for balance and every day wear i started out with a low platform wedge. That way you can actually wear a heel that looks quite a bit higher than it really is. You'll have the balance of the entire soul under your foot and the elevation of a heel. For me though, i have to take care not to wear too "chunky" of a heel as i believe the higher the platform is the more it takes away from the sexy heel look. If you plan right when you're just starting out, the incline in your arch will be slight and this will be a great shoe to train in.
Wedges of course come in all types of shoes these days as well, closed toed as well as sandals so you don't have to limit yourself to heels in the summer time. i'm sure you've also seen boots with a cute wedge. If you're serious about learning to wear heels it's something you should do slowly but very consistently. Wearing heels for a day and then going back to flats for two weeks does nothing for forming your arches and muscles. It also does nothing for your balance. The moment you go back to those shoes you won't remember what you've learned. This isn't to say you need to go out and buy 5 pairs of new shoes, one will do for the beginning, but get something that you know will fit and something you're comfortable wearing. That's where this post might come in handy. You don't have to spend $75 on a pair of shoes, but you do have to be picky. Don't pay attention to the size "you always wear". Pay attention to the size that fits! Try BOTH shoes on and walk in them!! A LOT! Now, this is me, i posted about this before but this is a fact. Pantyhose or just hosiery of any kind will make shoes last longer. Why? Because the perspiration from your foot will ruin the inside of the shoe. The hose will also make the shoe slide on and off better and make the shoe more comfortable giving the illusion that you might need a smaller shoe, and you might! So you hate pantyhose because they droop? Haannnngggg on! Call me crazy but i did this for years!! i wore panties, then pantyhose, then.... panties OVER my pantyhose! Never once did my pantyhose droop! Just a little tip for ya! Take care when buying that first pair of heels that you come home with a pair that you love. If you don't, if you're not excited about wearing them, you'll certainly be discouraged. Get something high enough that you'll be noticed, but not so high you'll fall on your tail in front of that cute guy or your Master. After an evening in your new shoes you should feel it, if you haven't felt the difference from the new heel then your shoes probably weren't high enough. i'm thinking at least 2.5 inches or so, not including a platform. i'll say it again, scuff up the bottom of that new shoe like you're taking the finish off it! Waxed floors are not our friends! =)
This post is about endurance, safety and tid bits that make wearing heels easier!
By now your balance should be better and you might want to think about increasing the height of the shoe you're wearing. This is where endurance comes in, it's also where patience is a virtue. Basically if you think about the process, you're stretching your calf muscle beyond the point of where it is normally stretched. To listen to some people they think it's unhealthy. To listen to others they think done in the proper manner, it's perfectly fine.
By unhealthy i mean, going out and buying a pair of ballet shoes and wearing them for 3 hours right off the bat. This pretty much physically impossible unless you're "Rubber Girl" and if you're not you'll just tear your shins and calf muscles to shreds. i am going to give you my version of a healthy way to gain endurance, strengthen your ankles and help with balance, without hurting yourself. There really should never be real pain, discomfort, yes. But you should never feel actual pain if you're having pain, you're going too fast. Let's assume you've been wearing wedges for a while, should feel pretty comfortable walking in them. Depending on how long you've worn them it should have helped in strengthening your calf muscles as well as your ankles and thighs. So lets look at choosing a shoe with a straight heel, no wedge, no platform. In other words a pump. i would really recommend not going with a sandal right off for one main reason. A pump will offer more material for balance around your foot where in a sandal the straps offer little to no support. At this point i might look for a 3 inch or 3 1/2 inch pump but really no higher. Going from a wedge to a straight heel is an entirely different feel if you're unfamiliar with the balance and if you want to look sexy in your walk. Oh sure, anyone can fling on a pair 5 inch heels and do the slutty slither but we want to look amazingly sexy. If you find yourself wobbling at all from one side to the next your heels are too high! Working on ankle strength and endurance; Ankle weights can always be used but it's not something i ever did. i know i would have benefited from it though and it's still something i should consider. It's never too late to work on strengthening your ankles if you're serious about wearing heels. For endurance, Master made many rules for me that helped but one helped more than anything. Every time i was sitting at my computer (because that's where i used to spend most of my down time) i had to wear no less than a 4 inch heel. This rule helped stretch my calves, stretch my arches and more often than not when getting up from my chair for any little errand, i wouldn't change out of my 4 inch heel, i would just wear that same shoe. It helped me get more and more used to wearing those heels regularly. Slowly, i gained more confidence and more strength but it's an on going process and it's something that never ends. If i were to get on my hands and knees and look under my desk right now, i bet i would still find random heels that i still wear when i'm sitting at my desk. You can never stop training and stretching your feet. But you should call b.s. on me! i don't do it every single time i am at my desk! i fail a lot i forget, i kick off my shoes before i get up and walk out of the room to do an errand barefoot, yep, i do it too. i'm not supposed to and it makes Master VERY unhappy and i HATE that i do it, but i do it. But, i try and i'll never stop trying because i love heels and i love the way they look and i LOVE the way Master looks at me when i'm wearing shoes He loves!!!! Okay you're walking in pumps and you feel fairly confident, depending on the pile of the carpet (yes i said carpet), i would really prefer to try out a new pair of shoes on carpet, especially a pump. You'll get just a tiny bit of grab and the carpet will also offer a little more support than a wood or tile floor will. It's a perfect place to work on your balance. One foot firmly planted as you practice balancing on one foot and not wiggling from side to side. It's much harder than it sounds. Another great way to strengthen your ankles
i'll assume you're wearing hosiery in your shoes for comfort, take care that any time you're wearing a new pair of shoes, the hosiery will make the shoe a bit more slick than if you're barefoot. i mentioned that panties will help you keep your pantyhose from drooping. Another alternative of course is a panty girdle or foundation garment over your pantyhose!
This post is for anyone really dedicated to wearing heels on a daily or almost daily basis.
At this point you've graduated from a 3 1/2 or a 4 inch heel and you're comfortable in that heel for an extended period of time and you're ready to move on.
Going higher means being careful and it also means learning to choose carefully, trying on shoes and walking in them a lot before buying. Internet purchases are risky but often times the cutest most affordable shoes are on line.
Internet purchases; Obviously there are millions of amazing shoes on line to choose from. Of course the worst part being the inability to test out the shoe. If you're able it's a possibility for you, the best scenario is to order the two closest sizes and return the size that doesn't fit. Sometimes there are reviews posted from buyers about the items stating how the shoe fit. Those are invaluable to us as buyers. Alleviating the need to order multiple pair and getting the closest possible fit.
So you've gotten the most awesome shoe and it fit in the store and you have it home now and it's too big or too small, now what? Okay, here are some links to help you get off and running.
Shoe Stretcher This is very reasonably priced and you really only need to buy one unless you're really in a hurry to wear your shoes. There is also a spray that will help stretch the shoe as well. However, i can't speak to the effectiveness of the spray, i've never used it.
So the shoe is way too large, there are heel grippers, these are really standard and they will also help the shoe from slipping off the back of your heel. Heel gripper. There have been a couple times that i have used more than one to snug up the back of a shoe and they work wonders. The best part about them is that they'll pull the back of a shoe off your heel to prevent blisters. Of course the higher you go, the more pressure you're putting on the ball of your foot and the gel cushions are amazing. The only bad thing i've found with ball only gel cushion is getting it to stay in place. They tend to want to curl up under your toes so some double sided tape might help to keep it in place or just a full shoe pad might be a better choice if needed. Gel pad. & Full foot cushion.
The links i'm offering are only examples of what's out there, i'm sure you can find tons more. i should also mention that i was looking for the most affordable items i could find there may very well be better quality items on the market as well.
Continuing the training with a higher heel is just more of the same in a more consistent manner. What really changes is your mindset. Where you once thought that a "flat shoe" was a sneaker or a flip flop. A flat shoe is really now a 2 1/2 inch sandal and that becomes your all day walking shoe. Your regular daily wear is now your 3 1/2 or 4 inch heel or 5 inch heel depending on your level of comfort. It's really all in how you look at things and what you're physically able to handle. Now i typically do my housework in pair of 2 1/2 inch or 3 inch sandals. It may take me a bit longer because i am more careful, i use the handrails when walking down the stairs and i notice i certainly take smaller steps. But all those things just make me look like more of a lady. Things that Master loves and wants to see in me.
Had someone told me 10 or more years ago i would be doing housework in a skirt, heels, stockings and an all in one girdle i would have rolled on the floor laughing. i just wasn't the type of person that was physically able to wear heels or really dress that way. my toes were really bad and they always hurt but my level of commitment is such that i've made some pretty drastic physical changes and Master has been extremely patient and committed as well.
To this day i work on stretching my legs, stretching my arches and i will never be able to stop working on strengthening my legs or i will lose everything that i have worked toward. When there is a period of time that i have to wear true flat shoes, helping Master build something or working outside for a long time, i feel the ache in my legs. It's the total opposite of what i felt when i began to wear heels though. It's the opposite cramps, my legs crap up because they aren't used to being in flats for so long and the pain can be excruciating.
i still have a long way to go, i don't have ballet shoes and i think Master would love it if i were ever able to walk in them like i were walking across a bare floor. i don't have the endurance that Master would like me to have, but i keep working on it. But again, i look at things differently, i know i can walk across a rocky surface in heels as long as i'm careful or i have Master's arm. i know that i can water flowers in heels or i can sit at a bonfire in heels and stockings.
Thanks for reading this has been fun! =)
Peace to you and yours! Happy Heels!